Turkey Trot

Another race in approximately 6 weeks. This one benefits Sheltering Arms- a non-profit helping the elders and their family caregivers. This is a win-win run. I win because I run first thing in the morning before devouring a Thanksgiving feast. The organization wins because of the donations that hopefully you all give.

On another note, entering in all of these runs keep my energy level up. I may not look like I am getting in any shape but I do feel good about myself!

Please donate if you can...any bit helps.

Thank you!

Not made of honor

What exactly is a Maid of Honor (MoH)? According to The Knot, the MoH acts as a support system for the Bride, implement the Bride’s wishes, helps out with planning non-wedding day events, and blah, blah, blah. The MoH is generally a person that is close to the bride, understands the bride, and most of all, and values their relationship with the bride- seeing that the bride obviously chose the individual for a reason. Is it necessary to have a MoH? Of course not! It is based on the preference of the bride (not an obligation) and if the bride feels that there are no individuals that she knows that would fill the role or uphold the “Honor” in the title of MoH, then so be it. The bride may not need for the individual to carry-out wishes or help in the non-wedding day even planning. The bride may simply want her “support” standing next to her on the wedding day, sharing the tears of joy, and to show “Honor” to the bride.

Dictionary.com associates “Honor” as integrity, distinction, high respect, etc. But should honor be a one way street (i.e. bride honors individual yet individual has no regards for bride)? Absolutely not! If the valuation is not reciprocated then the bride must reevaluate the role of the individual on her special day. Certainly the bride would not want to look back on one of the best days of her life to remember that the individual standing next to her was someone who had no regards for the bride. Some may say that the stress of wedding planning may mask what the true relationship is between the bride and the MoH (or potential candidate). Perhaps the MoH honors and respects the relationship that they have with the bride. Perhaps the MoH appreciate and values the bride. Perhaps the MoH has always been the support system that the bride needed, even before the engagement. Whatever the case may be, the bride must take a step back and reexamine instances and events that transpired. Look beyond just wedding related events. Has the MoH’s actions been consistent throughout the relationship? Has the MoH been available to the bride? Has the MoH ever reciprocated or appreciated anything that the bride has done for them?

It is prudent that the bride chooses an individual that will maintain, justify and promote the term “Honor” in the title “Maid of Honor”. Howbeit, having a MoH is not mandatory but an honored friend standing next to the bride the day of would be choice.